Mediation for custody / visitation is tomorrow (Thursday). L presented to me some talking points / custody arrangements late last week—this afternoon, after classes, L and I are having a convo to go over those points, as well as what to expect in mediation (generally), as well as address some recent questions / concerns I have in response (or in addition to) her talking points.
In a previous thread, I mentioned that L told me that we could switch judges, otherwise known as ‘papering’ a judge. We ended up doing that—the case has been reassigned to a new judge (a male judge, FWIW, if it means anything). L told me that the original judge was a fine enough person, but judicially a wild card in terms of her rulings, and she said that ‘literally anyone else’ would be better. Now, W / STBXW and her L also have that right to ‘paper’ a judge—we’ll find out if that is the case soon enough I’m sure.
We also have a continuance for the court date—was supposed to be April 30th, has now been pushed all the way back to August 5th. Hopefully this means that we can mediate this out over the summer, as well as protects my rights with respect to visitation, residency, and property. I’m sure that can be a topic, as well.
W still wants to know what my near-future plans are. For someone who has threatened to move out around May 1st, I haven’t seen much in terms of packing / rounding up possessions.
Incredibly, she wants to know if I’m switching jobs, if I would leave the state of CA and take the boys, or leave the state of CA without the boys, or whatever. Unreal. I have told her next to nothing about my near-term plans—the only thing I said in response was “I have no plans on leaving my current position” (which is true, I’m quite happy where I’m at, and will be completing my 5th year of teaching, both in general, and at my current school).
I’m sure there is more, but I can respond as necessary with questions / comments (I really, really don’t feel well today, and am glad that today is a half-day, as well as convo with L this afternoon). Wish me luck for tomorrow!
