Loving it FS. I love you've found such a great balance of taking back your power which then seems to give you enough energy and confidence to be more open/kind to him. I definitely see the connection where by defining your own space you can relax to let him closer to you in some ways. You are losing your fear of him hurting you.
H checking you out was the most surprising to me. I'd be curious to hear if that progresses or continues.