You are completely right. I have to stop thinking and talking about him all the time with my friends, and using so much energy focusing on what he might do or say in reaction to me. It’s truly exhausting and it’s giving away too much of myself. It’s also completely become my normal state so it will be a hard habit to break. I’m going to dinner with an old friend this evening and I’ve texted H to ask him to stay late after he puts our daughter to bed. I’m gonna give her a brief update and then let her know I don’t want to think or talk about him this evening. (I think I talk about it a lot for other people’s sake? They are all so concerned and I feel like I owe them updates. Which is NOT TRUE). Thank you FS! You inspire me
