Urghhh I just finished writing an update and my laptop froze !!!
Quick version - Day 3 of FS's Take Back Control Initiative
{Day 2 was missed because not a lot happened - went to work, came home saw the kids for 20 mins before they went to H's flat}
1. I asked him this morning if i could them (the kids and him) for brunch. He had the kids all day and I was working from home. I normally don't ask to join them because, well I fear rejection and I don't want him to think I am intruding on his time. But I am done wondering how my actions make him feel. Today I just asked. Didn't think about it at all before hand. He said yes straight away (not the reluctant yes I used to get, or the "I'm not sure what i'm doing with them yet"). He also didn't get mad when I was 15 mins late (I text him to let him know and even sent him my order) and he offered to pay for me when the bill came.
Wonders never cease.
2. I told him calmly that this might be his house, but it is not his home. His brother was here picking something up and they were both outside talking. After a while he called me outside and said he wants to use the money we set aside to do the garden before he MO to pay his brother to redo the decking in the back garden. His brother can do it in one day and they will use cheap materials. I told him "I will think about it. I have to live here and don't want to do it cheaply just because it's convenient". There was some back and forth and I finally said the "I have to live here, it might be your house but it is not your home". He had a stupid smile on his face and said loudly "THIS is still MY home". I walked away.
I then went back to smiley happy FS.
He retaliated later by a) going to the shops and buying and cooking three steaks (one for him, one for D9 and one for D12) and b) saying (when D9 asked him when he was going to prepare the play house for painting) that "It's not my job" even though he had previously promised them he would do it.
[censored] child.
About 30 mins later he was out the back with D9 preparing the play house for painting.
PS - I ignored the lack of dinner and made myself a Caesar salad (with eggs, avocado and chicken) and then proceeded it eat it with them whilst they had their steaks.
