After this boundary talk it seemed as if she respected me for saying it.
Boundaries usually do earn you some respect, but you've got to be careful because she may test your boundaries and if she does then you need to be ready to enforce them or she will lose that respect.
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There have been a few instances almost daily where she is very friendly and talkative like she was a few months ago before BD. Then she goes back to coldness. I read this can be a sign of good DBing and that the WAW will “try out being nice”?
It's pretty common for them to cycle through a range of emotions just like the LBS. But if you effectively remove all pressure then there may be a lot more "nice" days because she won't feel the need to "mean" you away from herself.
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The physical touch in bed is hit or miss. Some nights she will lay closer and touch me while going to bed, other nights she won’t. I’m not initiating and trying to mirror.
Yes that's good, just let her do what she's going to do.
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I have been trying to use words of affirmation which was one of her complaints during BD. Per advice of the vets on here I haven’t been always complimenting her on looks. For example this morning I said “you are so creative with your outfits”. This initially got an “Ok” from her and then a few moments later she said “that was weird”. Not sure if I should stop saying things like that or if it’s weird because I never used to say things like that?
Yes she's going to have a strange reaction to it at first because she's not used to it. Just keep doing it. Try not to make it sexual though, complimenting her outfit like that is good. Also her work abilities, parenting skills, etc. Michele says in one of her books that if the WAS is a pain in the neck 95% of the time and great 5% of the time then celebrate the 5%. So look for the 5%, like maybe your W is rocking your son to sleep and you tell her "he is lucky to have such a loving mom", something like that.
