FS...so glad you set your boundaries and your H paid attention. Also glad you did it in person instead of email. I have sent exactly one email to my STBXH and that was very early on. Mostly because my thoughts and feelings were changing so rapidly that if I wrote anything to him, I knew that I would likely feel differently a week or two later. My sitch is different than yours though as he is living with his affair and buying a house, etc... I remember when he was texting me back in September about wanting to come home and do the right thing but fearing he had dug himself a hole so deep that he couldn’t get out of it. I did not know at the time that he was referring to the second life he had been building with her... I understand it better now. Anyway...my sitch was always going to end this way...yours, I have consistently maintained, has a chance to end differently...hopefully with you back together...in a better R than you had before. It will take time though...and more setting of boundaries cause I really think your H won’t come back unless he truly believes he might lose you. In the meantime, it seems like the new normal is working for you in some ways and maybe that will make it easier to stand for the time you will need. Whatever you decide to do now and in the future, I am, as always, rooting for you and hoping you end up living the life you want and, more importantly, deserve. Lots of love and ((((HUGS)))
