Based on all of my experience so far in my sitch, expect the unexpected. My wife and I were arguing at each other. I finally felt like I was detached. I stood up to her in our communication and told her my conditions, called her BFF a B a few times. Talked dissolution and other things. 10 days later, she had me snuggling and kissing her and now I am back to trying to pick up the pieces and detaching again.
So what I am saying is, she is gone either way. It takes a while to realize that. You can't control if she files for divorce or doesn't. You control yourself and can be the best father in the world. I focus on my children and focus on working out and taking care of myself.
My BIL said it best. I was too focused on her being the prize. He said that is not the way to look at it. You are the prize. She needs to feel the loss of you. She needs to win you back, the prize. Stay strong...just when you think you are doing good, the WW will sense that and test you. Don't do what I did and fall for it...stick to your boundaries and conditions. AT ALL COSTS!
