I know what you are saying Anotherstander is the hard reality but when I think of the mess she is creating, I see my daughter who is just two suffering and getting scars that may not heal. That is just what kills me every night when I go to bed. She did not deserve any of this, she deserved an effort by both her parents to give her a family/save the family she deserves.
I know I have been wrong and I am responsible partly for the situation, but not the affair and I believe if it was not there, reconciliation would have been possible. But my W chose the path that will just bring destruction for all (her family, my family, our daughter). I wonder how people can change that much, be so selfish that they don't care about the pain they are causing to all in their life.
If she is gone already, then why should I worry about not telling her what I know and how it is affecting our daughter and our lives.I don't want to beg but atleast want to tell her that I am strong and I will come out of this stronger than before. The limerence [censored] and worst part is that they don't care about anyone anymore, just their happiness (which also won't last long considering the pain and hurt they are causing to get that. (We reap what we sow.).
Sorry, but just wanted to vent..Feeling of losing family that you built for last 10 years, losing the dreams you had for the family, your kids, I guess is the worst pain in the world.
Hope I can look back someday and say, I survived it.
