Anthony, that all sounds fine. I definitely agree with Steve on just not having R talks to begin with though. And also on sticking to it, on EVERYTHING you said to her. As Sandi points out all the time, every time you establish a boundary with a WW, she will test it to see if it means anything. If you fail the test you lose even more respect. So you have got to enforce your boundaries.
I always cringe a little when people say "gay friend" in the context of a sexless marriage. We do have people here in same-sex couples going through all the same terrible things as everyone else, and that term is derogatory, so please be sensitive to that.
