I think I get that. And I'm not trying to be obstructive. But I don't understand what the point is in having a relationship with someone you are not allowed to ask for emotional support or closeness from. If I don't ask for what I need, I don't get it. If I do ask for it, I get nastiness. It feels like a dead end.
You are absolutely entitled to comfort, but right now he’s not in a position to give it to you. And you asking makes him feel inadequate. You need to cultivate patience yet again. Goodness me this is hard, I’ve never been so patient in my life. And patience in the face of extreme uncertainty is even harder. I hope you feel more grounded today
