I just said on my thread about distancers going through a pursuit phase and pursuers going through a distancing phase in order to get to somewhere in the middle. I suppose in a way you making your husband move out is the ultimate distancing. Going back to pursuing seems unhealthy for you, just like going back to distancing would be unhealthy for me (even though it’s what I feel like doing). Going to places with happy memories is hard, actually maybe I shouldn’t have chosen this place for a holiday because there is too much history. Next holiday I’m taking the kids somewhere new. Time to make some new memories! You are doing really well Alison, hang in there and be patient. Can we come up with some strategies for what to do when we want to contact but know we should back off? I could really do with some!!
