Thank you for your thoughts on distancing FS. I’ve been reading somewhere that in order to reach secure attachment distances have to go through a pursuer phase and vice versa for pursuers. So far so textbook for me. It’s no fun, I feel so insecure. Alison: I think I just had too many nice memories of holiday sex, plus it has been MONTHS AND MONTHS and I’m only human. Sigh. And I’m hormonal and everything is shutting down and I feel like I’ll never have sex again. Sigh. I messed up today, the rest of the weekend was lovely apart from the sex talk yesterday but this afternoon I had a total meltdown and separation anxiety and crying and being pathetic. And it ended in R talks on both sides and just ugh I am so stupid and over emotional. And dh cannot handle me being emotional at all and then I ended up apologising for all my many behaviours in the past, even though you’re right Alison, he has definitely contributed his fair share. Anyway I dropped him at the airport but I need to work out how to stop this separation anxiety, it’s so counterproductive and I feel about 3. Being middle aged is no fun. Not sure where I go from here, maybe I would be better off if he just left for good. He certainly expressed no desire to work on things but then he never has. Sigh. Ugh again .
