I have decided to wait until after the school holidays to send the email. Procrastination, but he has the children most of the holidays, and it is easier to have them here. I have spoken to him about not entering my bedroom and also taking himself off the camera. He was defensive about both:
"I only went in there because I was looking fro D12's football shorts" "I don't even look at the camera"
and finally ...
"If you want to take me off the camera you will have to go in as admin and do it yourself. I don't know how too" (knowing full well that it's linked to our electricity and he is the only admin on the account).
I have disabled the camera (for now) and will be putting a lock on my bedroom door this week.
My SIL was just here (the one who is separated from his brother). She mentioned that his brother said H is seeing someone who looks like me. This has to be the girl from back in Oct. She seemed a little surprised that I didn't know but then said his brother told her about a six weeks ago and it could be old information he was relaying. This is a possibility. H would not tell his brother anything private ... he would not tell anyone, and certainly not his brother who he is not close to. It has thrown me in a bit of a spin and I need to process it properly before I make a decision. I have been kept in the dark for so long that I want to make sure I am acting on reliable information and not simply reacting. If he is seeing her that makes at least seven months, which is more than seeing if the grass is greener ... it is a fully functioning relationship.
