I guess I'm confused as to why she is threatening you. What does she want? I would make it crystal fuching clear you are not budging on 50/50 and if she wants to go to court and waste thousands of dollars that have at it.
Not totally sure what she wants right now—other than the fact that she wants to know my emotional state (“how are you doing, how are you feeling,” etc.). For someone who doesn’t want to be my W, she sure wants to know what’s going on inside. She kinda lost out on that when she fired me as H.
The threats came mostly before earlier this week (so, starting from January onward)—threats about her evicting me from our residence, her up and taking the kids, blah blah blah. Very little of what she claims would come to pass actually has.
Now? I’m guessing the threat is that if I don’t negotiate with her before mediation, I could lose out on custody / visitation.
She also claims that she will hold my prior ‘unwillingness’ to work with her against me in mediation—to be fair, if I need to, I can probably use her threats towards me against her, or when she would to OS that she ‘already has one sick baby and doesn’t need another.’ I pay attention to stuff like that and document it.
Originally Posted by LH19
This isn't the 1950s. Courts understand that children especially boys need a father figure in their lives.
I read once that 90% of males in jail had little to no father figure.
I sure hope the courts realize that. The boys need their Daddy.
My L told me previously that the courts in our jurisdiction to tend to be rather fair, so I’ll trust her on this one. But I’ll admit it’s difficult to hear this from W in any event, which leads to what Vapo said below....
Originally Posted by Vapo
IMO, she is issuing threats to try to frighten Bo into submission...
Vapo, you’re probably right on this one.
The thing is, is that that approach hasn’t really worked with me—I think I’ve held much more firm with her person-to-person than I would have (though I do talk about my private thoughts / fears here in the forum). As mentioned above, few (if any) of her threats have actually come to pass. I’d like for it to stay that way.
