I have some wifi and dh is off with the kids so I popped on here quickly. So far the holiday has been ok, pretty much like old family holidays. A few rough patches which we have smoothed over, but no real deep conversations so far (also no R talk, luckily). Dh and I shared a bed last night and even cuddled up a tiny bit (it was very cold). This afternoon we came back after a very nice lunch out at a town nearby. I had some wine with lunch and that gave me the courage to say what I was thinking all weekend. We came back to our accommodation with a nice lunch and wine inside us and that would usually be when we'd go and have sex and a nap. The best bit of a holiday... Well today dh was all for dragging off the kids to go swimming and then play tennis, I think to avoid the memories of what we'd usually do. I caught up with him, hugged him and said sex would be really, really nice. He evaded me a bit and then I looked at him and said 'I've been very, very patient, but I need sex. You need to think hard about how you'd feel about your wife having sex with other men, because whether you won't or can't give me sex, I have waited too long now and I really need it'. He said ok and then I went and changed into my bikini, showed him my new size 10 body (I might be in my mid 40s but I have a great body for my age, and he has always fancied me until last summer).
So anyway, I feel good about having laid down that boundary. I'm not desperate to have sex with anyone else, but I needed to tell him that I need it, it's been about 9 or 10 months now and honestly, I don't think I can wait much longer. He is a VERY competitive man, so if anything stirs the blood up, that ought to do it (I didn't do it to make him jealous, more to make him realise the reality of the situation, if he thinks I'm waiting forever he is wrong). I was honest with him, told him my boundary, didn't blame him and didn't threaten him (well, I don't think I did, what do others think??)
