Thanks G for the perspective. Here is the funny thing. My neighbor across the street has 3 kids, with a 4th one on the way. His W is a teacher as well and is a devoted W and mother. Her life is her husband and kids, she doesn't feel the need to go out and do all of these other things that I had described as being attractive. I remember when my XW left she flat out told me that she was not built like my neighbors wife across the street. When this was all going down for me a 2 years ago I wished that my XW was more like my neighbors W.
What I think I want and what I actually need might be too different things.
When I talk to my mom about all this she thinks I am an idiot
