It’s been a while—been super-busy: grading, taking care of the boys, trying to GAL (swimming most of my weekdays, softball is a go later this month, and I will hopefully be a chaperone on our school’s Italy trip in April 2020). We’ve also been sick, and I’ve had to do legal paperwork—declaration of assets / debts, as well as income paperwork, so that consumed most of my weekend / latter part of last week. These are just the highlights—I could expand more in-depth later, but not now (taking a break from writing a student letter of recommendation).
Next week (Thursday), W and I have a mediation appt for custody / visitation. Sounds great for Holy Week! And my birthday is Holy Saturday / Easter Vigil, so happy birthday to me!
We do have a court date for April 30th, but L is requesting a continuance (which should be for 1st week of July).
With respect to mediation, W talked with me tonight. She said she forgives me for anything that I’ve done to her to make her angry—she’s no longer angry with me, although it is her opinion that I’m mad / angry with her.
I know I need to preface this with a tall, cold glass of BELIEVE NOTHING THEY SAY, but I gotta run this past the forum (as well as L, but she’s not awake right now and I will email tomorrow morning):
So, according to W, FWIW: W wants to talk with me before we go to mediation on Thursday. According to her: The judges / family law courts are extremely biased towards the mothers, and in Orange County, a judge supposedly turned to a mother with a known history of substance abuse issues and granted her 100% custody and then turned to the father and asked him why he deserves visitation. W also claims that she will present to the mediator the times when she has wanted to talk with me and I haven’t been cooperative with her.
My first thought was, hmmmm.....if that’s the case, then should I have in mind: her threats to evict me from the condo, her threats to up and take the boys from me, her declaring me (to my face and in legal paperwork) a flight risk.
To me, this sounds absolutely nuts.
Luckily, L and I have a phone convo on Wednesday, going over what to expect, and L already provided to me a list of talking points for mediation (outlining proposals for custody / visitation).
I did my best to, as LH previously put it, validate and move on, but W can’t be possibly be serious about any of what she said? What she is talking about sounds absolutely freaking ludicrous.
