- My wife is an introvert and whenever there was any argument, I would take my anger out and she kept her anger inside and I know that it kept building over time and exploded in this way. . (Her deciding to not staying married to me also starting the affair.). Resentment built over time and she mentioned that because of my emotional abuse, she lost self esteem and holds me responsible for that. (I do take responsibility for that and am already in therapy to fix that, but as Sandi mentioned in her posts, according to my wife, it is too little, too late.) - She is deeply involved with OM and is planning to divorce me and marry him. (Saw text on her phone) - As the affair started, she did not pay attention to her job and lost the job in 03/19. Held me responsible for that and said that because of you, i could not focus on the job and was fired. (In reality, the reason was that she did not focus on the job and used to go to OMs place almost everyday and work from there. Or I guess the found out the she is having affair with coworker and fired her, but I am not sure.) - I have known about the affair for a month and feel stupid that I did not confront her at that time . Now when she is about to move out in a week, i feel i lost the opportunity to confront and show my detachment when she was living in the house. - I am planning to talk to her parents as well (who do not live in US) and expose the affair to them. Wanted to know if that is a GOOD IDEA? I feel responsible for letting them know as I was the one who asked for their daughter's hand for marriage, and also feel that it may create some consequences for her. (Though she is not even talking to them and acting as a rebellion against all who are related to her like friends and family. The only person, she talks to these days in the OM (girl gone wild syndrome). Also want to point out that she has resentment against her mother for not treating her well during childhood and making her have low self esteem. My therapist also mentioned that as she already had these issues in her when you got married, anything small you might have done have affected her more than a normal person in the marriage.
Thanks again Steve85 and Ready2Change for your valuable inputs and resources. Much appreciated.
Would love to hear from other vets like Sandi2 also as she brings the perspective of WW and have read her posts which exactly highlight and define my wife these days (Basically not the person I married but an alien who I don't know)
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. Now when she is about to move out in a week, i feel i lost the opportunity to confront and show my detachment when she was living in the house.
