Wow, how similar a story to mine. My W was sexually assaulted a year before we met. She never got help with it. Just does how the rest of her family deals with difficult things - ignore, do not talk about, repress. Anyway, there is a 10 year age difference between us. Her dad has been sick lately, and when she BDed me it was right after it looked like his heart was going to give out. She said she couldn't trust me to be there for her emotionally if he died. Erased all history of my dad's near-miss with heart-failure and her less than supportive behavior at the time. Then promptly escaped into an EA with a guy from her graduate class. There is definitely a lot of trauma in her life, and it seems be a key component in some of our situations. Seems to come out of lack of tolerance to stress I suppose.
