Having reached 18 month post BD, I am slowly climbing out of the overwhelming and destructive h@ll I have been living in since my stbx decided that being without me was a better option. During this time, I have changed my life entirely in every aspect - job, lifestyle, accommodation, moved house etc. But I have also taken the time to grow, make my own way, learn to be alone and reflect on my life and our marriage. I have also come to the realisation that although I have no choice if I want to move forward that I have to live my life assuming that he will never return and if it should happen that he does return, then I will cross that bridge if I choose to.

I have also read a huge amount of information about the stages of MLC - I understand that there is no definite process and that each person is different. I am also not interested din the "timescale" of each stage - what I would like to get an idea of is what the overall experience is after the MLC spouse has gone through the "replay" stage - I feel such a widening gap between us - whereas before he was in regular contact - either by email or messaging, now the contact is almost non existent since we saw each other in February. I am not initiating any contact with him as I find its destructive to my well being, I just find the change in his behaviour to be out of character (but then I suppose MLC cant been seen as anything other than "out of character" .

Anyway - thoughts anyone.......

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