My 180's are other than where her habits affect S1. I don't criticize anymore, I don't get as angry, frustrated, or scary. Sahara me raising my voice when I'm passionate about something or defensive, scares her. I've never full-blown yelled at her. I talk calmly and evenly now without trying to sound condescending to her. I've stopped trying to control things I know I can't control. I try to regulate my emotions better especially when frustrated. I spend more time with S1 and try to help alleviate her when she needs it. I am more thoughtful and considerate when it comes to her love language of gift-giving and actions. I try to remain more upbeat and sociable unless negative talk to myself and everyone around me, I empathize more. I try to remain more present, and listen better. I'm still having a hard time following through with my actions against my words as far as completing things. I haven't been taken as good care of myself as I should but have been trying. Because I still haven't quit smoking, I shower every night now instead of every morning before I go to bed. I go to sleep consistently now at the same time instead of falling asleep with my phone on the couch. Eventually I'll try and quit again. My working out hasn't been consistent. but I have been going for a lot of walks. More financially involved. I have a list of the notebook I'll mention some more later. There are probably some more important ones as far as actions that I need to implement consistently. But behavioral ones are definitely getting better
It is easier if you write them as bullet points .
What I see as good . 1) Sleep - essential, makes the rest easier 2) don’t criticize 3) talking calmly
The bad 1) gym and smoking. If she doesn’t smoke this should be your no.1 action 2) I see lots of trying. DO or do not young Jedi
The more you tell us the more accurate help you will get . I feel you left off some of the details in the texts and looking at them she gave short sentences and yours were long. If she wants to see consistent changes what will she see ? The only consistent thing I am getting is your flip flopping
