Vik sorry man, I know it is tough. Your sitch has many parallels to mine, but the big difference being that my W never went physical with her online EA.
You will get varying opinions on confronting or not. I personally think you should confront her. I have said to other's here that women that are "pulling one over" on thieir LBH do not respect him. I saw one sitch where the woman in an affair would say to others "I can't believe that he is not smart enough to figure out or know that I am having an affair." So I believe you should confront her. However, tell her WHAT you know, but not HOW you know! Keep her guessing. To me that is one of the biggest tools in the cheated on spouse's arsenal is when the cheating spouse is constantly wondering "How did he find out? How did he know?"
She will ask. She will hammer on how you know. DO NOT tell her. Just stick to WHAT you know.
M(53), W(54),D(19) M-23, T-25 Bomb Drop - Dec.23, 2017 Ring and Piecing since March 2018
