Well I guess I got my wish... She didn't ask me how my day was today...
Be careful what you wish for. Further, I would have advised you NOT to ask her to stop. Just remain detached in answering. "It was good, thanks for asking."
Something short and simple.
^^^Yup, exactly^^^
Originally Posted by IHCLACS
I was considering in creating a polite respectful boundary on this and asking the W not to ask this any longer. I know she is just being polite and would ask this of any typical family member or friend.
The reason why I would like to cease her asking me this every day, because it maintains the marital dynamic to me from my POV.
That doesn't even make sense. You say you know she's just being polite and "would ask this of any typical family member or friend", but you don't want to continue because "it maintains the marital dynamic"? How so? If she would say it to anyone then it has absolutely nothing to do with the M. And your first thought is correct, she's just being polite. It doesn't mean a thing. This is why Steve's suggestion is appropriate.
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I almost wanted to ask her? Are you going to ask me that every time we exchange S1 in the future? Or do you just plan to say hi?
I'm glad you didn't ask that! That sounds really petty, and bratty even.
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Please review text and advise if I handled it ok, and any room for improvement or critique is welcome.
No I don't think it was handled well. You sound all over the place, and your W pretty much said that too. You don't want S, but you want D. You want to sell the house. No you don't. D is what you want. No it isn't, you're being forced to. You want counseling. Or do you? You're supposed to be pulling back, doing NOTHING to help S or D or sell the house and leaving all of that to your W. You don't fight her on it, if she needs info you give it to her. But you're not supposed to be pushing it through yourself unless you are 100% sure that's what you want.
