I so wish I had found your thread sooner—our situations have a lot of similarities! I’ve been reading, trying to catch up on yours as quickly as I can, haha. You are being super strong. My H moved out May 2018. We have a 3 year old daughter, and we have been in limbo all this time. Similarly, he comes here to see our daughter several times a week and does things around the house, has a laugh with me, tells me about work, etc. But says he isn’t coming back.
Just in the last couple weeks he has started talking about moving forward with divorce, and it’s been devastating. I’ve been so patient and done so much work in IC. Anyway, I’ve recently been wondering (with a pit in my stomach) if things might be different at this point if I’d taken detaching and distancing a step or two further. Maybe I should have made him feel he was actually losing me/us sooner?? I don’t know if it would have helped, and I’ll be trying it now regardless. But thought I’d share the thought with you in case...
