Remember when you laughed at my statement to not be surprised if she tries to initiate sex? Well, this is a prime example of how that happens. Guess who gets their hopes up and then gets hurt again?
As far as her not feeling anything when you held hands, or whatever.........she can't expect to feel butterflies with you when she has OM in her head. A woman does not feel desire for two men at the same time. She may sleep with more than one, but she'll only desire one man at a time. Currently, her lust for sex outside the MR, selfishness and rebellion are playing havoc with any normal feelings she might experience otherwise whenever touching her H. Notice that your WW was concerned about whether or not she could feel anything from snuggling & kissing with you. It was all about "her", not you or how you might feel. The WW is arrogant and she never stops to think that her H might not want her. Your WW was not wondering if you felt any special feelings for her while she was kissing you. She was to centered on herself.
So she came and talked to me last night. She said she felt nothing at all when we snuggled, or kissed. She also said that it has nothing to do with the OM. She said that she isn't a typical person and can separate him from me. WTF? I told her that there is no way she could have feelings for two people at the same time. She has said that she wanted to hug me in the past and resisted. But when we just held each other, she felt nothing. Nothing at all. She claimed that for the first hour, she didn't think of the OM at all. This is a joke. She can't separate the two. But that is for her to find out.
I am going to tell her if she wants to have any more relationship discussions that there will be none unless my conditions are met. I am not going to let my guard down. She has feelings for him still. That tells me that she is not just "friends" with him.
Oh well, fell off the horse. I need to climb back up on it and keep DBing. I messed up and was vulnerable. One step forwards, five steps backwards.
Sandi, based on how everything was going, snuggling, kissing, sex were not even foreseeable and then she just went for the kill. You are so dead on in your thoughts that it amazes me. I need your phone number to walk me through this! you are a wealth of knowledge. My BIL has been a wealth of knowledge and echoes a lot of what you say. It is just amazing how predictable these WW become. I had to laugh when she said she was not like a typical female and she can do this and that. The reason I laughed was because she is following the script that you are predicting. What should I be ready for next? LOL
