LH19. The part about you saying " really this life is better for us?" Really hits home, and I haven't even begun to be physically separated. What's bewilders me and pi$$es me off to no end about this, and although I'm probably generalizing by making the statement, is that promotion and freedom and Independence for the WAS, seems and appears more attractive then finding solutions to the marital issues in the first place. Im not saying remain co dependant either... But the self empowerment movement has an agenda.
Although self-empowerment is useful for both men and women alike and has its place, I still can't help but believe and feel that it sells a bunch of lies to the people who have given up hope by walking away with its quotes, messages, media, etc. There are more divorce articles on going from surviving to thriving, then articles on working together and finding solutions. All I hear and see is " promote the self promote the self promote the self.... self.... self...self" and most women gobble it up on shows like Oprah, and think, well if they can do it... So can I. They buy a ton of self improvement products and books that leave one vital piece out... How to actually improve relationships, communications, etc. I don't see many shows or books or people are articles promoting sacrifice patience understanding communication resolve and willingness and commitment to marriage anymore.
A lot of men and women, more so women read these articles and fantasize about how super spectacular fabulously awesome their new life post divorce is going to be through positivity and encouragement, intuition and other things. Some I'm sure are genuinely happy in the pursuit of their goals desires and dreams outside of marriage once leaving it, but no one's covering the harsh realities of splitting up the families, because it probably doesn't sell. This is my biggest sticking point in all this. I think the media and Satan has sold the masses a bunch of lies, and sadly they never realize it until years later when it's too late. Im so glad MWD is pro marriage pro relationship pro skill building.
