I think the details would explain why it matters. She was displaying signs of depression when I was driving her to the gym for 2 years. I would go out of my way to drop her off, take the kid to school, go back when she was done and pick her up. I was her driving service when she was getting laid (putting it mildly). I would wait downstairs drinking coffee like a proud father waiting for his daughter to finish her classes. Can you begin to understand my rage.
Twofeet, thanks. very well put.
Neffer, thanks for reading my sitch. Yup infuriated is what I feel. And I am still in shock. Thanks for your tips.
I only told my sister, I had to share with someone, and she got a rash on her neck from the stress of it all. My sister would do her hair and they would laugh. Both of us are sick to our stomach. My dad offered me Xanax yesterday, I almost took it. I chain smoke mostly and hurt my throat as I am up all night.
Ready2Change I love your quote "never reveal sources of intel". I am so glad I havent given in to temptation. And everything else you wrote so true as well. The data provided me with the extra kick to more forward.
Steve85 I always thought it was a bad idea. But if I may offer a 180 on that even. I am so glad I gathered the intel. It makes all the difference. The devil is in the details. Trust me, in my case it is. You make an excellent point about time working on my perspective in the future, but even if it was in her past I would stlil be appalled. What she did with this man is beyond my boundaries, way beyond. I know anything is fair in love and war. But this is different. I wish I could describe what I found. I would get banned as it is too hard. Think of the categories in sex sites that you dont even dare click to watch. Where you hide your eyes. And then add to that even. WHo the hell was I with all these years? I am no mormon in bed, but when did the freak show stuff become first encounters. I mean where do you build from there when you already went to the far side.
Ready2Change, you are right. I understand that my wife wasnt getting her needs met from me. But she was a 19 year old virgin when we met and I was always a gentleman with her and took it slow. I could never push her into those fantasies. I felt so protective of her.
My poor son, looking up to her as his angel, doesnt know that in a few days I will not be a part of his life (only every other weekend in Greek law - mother is never at fault rule) anymore. Because his mother wanted to taste some strange. I was beginning to teach him guitar and bicycle and English (he only speaks Greek now) and computers. She will work and throw him in some day care... And I will move back to the States to forget it all. Its too painful. Will return when the kid can understand more.
B.D in December 2018 Physical Affairs discovered in April 2019 Divorced May 2019 H (me) 49 W (her) 29