Big hugs to you, Hazy. I'm so sorry for the situation, but I totally agree with doodler. This guy is just a user. If you are already living separately, what is the point of waiting until D turns 18 to divorce? He's moved on but is just keeping you on the back burner while you are twisting in agony. Like doodler said, use that anger you feel toward yourself to push yourself to move onward and upward without this guy. You'll always have a link to him since you share children, but your kids are adults so it is a tenuous link at best. You don't NEED him. You can do just fine by yourself. You deserve SO much better.
Me 52, H53 Bomb drop 9/29/2014 Divorce from XH final 12/17/2014 Marriage #2 12/31/2019 5 adult (step)daughters (3 from XH's first marriage, 2 from current H's previous relationships) 6 grandkids
