Dealing with a complex MLC and/or Wayward Wife #2

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Yes, there will be ALOT of Golf LH!

Twofeet - good suggestion. I'm not yet at a point where I care about the time. Only the subject matter. I'm still so early in this sitch that admittedly I"m still doing a lot of DB'ing based on getting a 'response' out of her in some way and/or helping to create the feeling of loss of the H and family structure. Which means I have to be very careful not to punish.

Based on all the experience of the board here i'm realizing I'm probably still in denial about how far my W is in regards to being wayward and GGW. I know she is in an affair fog, but I also know that her 'deepest' connections are EA's with people that are mostly unavailable to her in regards to a real relationship. Only time will tell and I'm very focused on trying to move out of denial by GAL and focusing on me. She's only been out of the house 3 nights and it's been really rough to accept the fact that she really is 'gone' from a physical standpoint. I did not expect it to hit me that hard. It was a bit of reality and now every time I see or talk to her I'm still reading too much into it and keeping myself in denial. Everytime I see her I'm just in shock - I think: Really? This is really done? you must be crazy! but I keep my mouth shut.

emotionally I'm a wreck and don't want to believe it - and although I'm sure there is an 'under current' she can feel that shows I'm not detached yet - I believe I'm doing a very good job of acting as if in regards to my actions. So I'll probably be checking in here often to make sure I'm not making more mistakes. I know the last nights failure to text did not change ANYTHING overall - but it does feel like good 'feedback' in regards to the DB'ing strategy.