Yep I get it.. I think it all worked out. I think I was able to convey the message that I'm not always available but still friendly. Thanks to both of your comments. It could have screwed this one up.... Cause I was thinking about texting back "I'm not that guy for you anymore" - but I think this early in the S (move out) would have been received as petty and punishment.
The fact that she had to go all night, then ask me if I did it on purpose means that she was thinking about it anyway. Not that makes a difference or should matter to me - but at this point it does. Small crisis averted and back to figuring out how to do do all of this. Next 2 days will be my first all alone (as she as the kids). Good warm up, cause I get them for the weekend but then after that we are on normal schedule where I will be going on 5 day stretches without them every other week.
H(me:) 44 W: 45 T: 16yrs M: 13 S: 9 S: 6 Pre BD (not really recognized by either) 8/18 PA 11/18 PA suspected 12/22/18 (Denied) PA confirmed 12/28/18 PA #2 (Different) 2/16/19 S: 4/7/2019