Hey man, that was a huge temp check. She wanted to know where you were. Now expect more waywardness. You know, DB has some strict rules to follow. You are free to follow them or not. But everytime you fall into ww world rules you reset your advantage points. I was a ww some time ago. So let me tell you the feeling W has for OM has no grade of comparison with the ones she has for you and the MR. I´m sorry to say this. Feelings are subjetive. They don´t depend on the past history, the amount of time or any other background. They are related with W mind so you can add there some addictions, limerence, selfishness and whatever is doing short circuit inside W´s head.
You need to keep getting into amoafwl. Keep detaching. She´s not there, she´s not on board your boat. She has to see that. You show her you are sailing out of the harbour (yes, I work with water...). There´s no way to move slowly away from OM, be aware of that. It´s black or white there, no greys allowed.
As you said, focus on yourself, detach, GAL. Be there for the kids, your first commitment now. Set her free and free yourself from her. Avoid MR talks, it´s nonsense now. She knows YOUR boundaries, right? You need to regain respect. Respect!
Be strong there Anthony, keep DB, keep moving forward. No expectations
