yes the MLcer is very detached from the family and kids
some get more so as time goes on
the children usually get used to it and adjust quickly as long as one parent (you) is still intact and available My kids now almost 18 and 24 seem very well adjusted and have not seen dad since 2009
you are doing great and having the L in place will help with future direction id it goes to that
married 14 years H 42 bomb 2/07 IDLYA D final 3 /09 M ow D ow