Andrew - my point was that I’m the type (and maybe the dr too) that would intentionally make sure there was not a bar fight. I shut that sh!t down -‘and it’s easy to do. But other girls will love the attention of being the cause of one or getting to be the damsel in distress. They know what they are doing and they play on that.
The bar example is meant to be similar to a female putting herself in a position of flirting or encouraging attention from other men...In a subtle way that puts boyfriend or husband on alert. I was curious why guys don’t appreciate the women that avoid drama (they say they do) but they end up taking her for granted and as a sure thing. They seem to be drawn to the women that encourage attention from other men. As J said - he wants the edge to them. Betty is just as attractive as Veronica if not more. Yet they go for the Veronica’s.
I am giving you guys on here insight on the Veronicas (most of them your ex”s and basically telling J it seems like he has a Betty and that’s why he’s not as attracted)
I don’t know Gordies situation. Waywards say crazy stuff cause they want to be right. But you say you doted on your wife. I wonder if guys dote more on the women that are not sure things. Your wife wasn’t a sure thing. Most of the wives on these forums weren’t yet you guys doted. Usually aggressive women do not end up being Betty’s. They usually have a sense of targeting nice guys. That’s just my opinion though.
My boyfriends don’t dote because I am loyal and a sure thing. I see that. And just like I am giving you guys insight, you are giving me insight as well and I am taking this in. For my personal sitch, I realize I lose my edge.
