Yesterday my h contacted me and let me know he is taking a job overseas. My children and I will be staying behind. I can't believe he is willing to move to another country and be away from our children.
I'm sure it's a shock to you, but I've been here a while and read more sitches than I can count and that doesn't surprise me one bit. Right now he's feeling a lot of pressure and he's trying to escape from it however he can, and what better way than to simply leave the country? He's trying to run away from his problems. If he does indeed move, eventually he will discover that the problems are inside him. "Wherever you go, there you are."
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My S just turned 1 and has barely spent any time with his dad. My daughter is devastated. Her dad was everything for her, he was her best friend. How can someone change so drastically and not care about anything or anyone other than themselves?
Hopefully some day these situations can be recognized, addressed and treated. Right now this area is basically still in the dark ages of modern medicine. We don't know why it happens, doctors don't know, therapists don't know. It is more than likely a mental condition of some sort that makes people change from loving parents and spouses to foreign aliens, but currently professionals just treat it like it's a natural choice rather than a medical condition. Hopefully some day there will be better understanding. But until then, all you can do is DB and hope he changes back some day. It does happen.
