IH, so in summary you're demanding a divorce because you feel like selling the house sooner rather than later is a deal-killer? I don't really understand that. Why is a physical object driving you to end the marriage to the person you love? Personally I think you are doing this for different reasons, like so many before you, you are hoping that waving the D flag will wake her up and snap her out of her fog. It WILL NOT, you are simply giving her what she already wants, and YOU are doing all the work for her! You're also giving her the perfect "out" for her friends and family, she can now simply tell them that YOU are the one that pursued D. Is this really what you want?
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Devised in my own mind. I do have a list of requirements as I would also ask her if she had a list of hers if she ever did want to reconcile, about what we both need to change and how we can work together to change it. She doesn't know this and I'm not putting much hope in it as of right now.
So you just threatened her with divorce and now you want to negotiate the terms of recon? Seems like you are kind of all over the place. Just pull back, take a deep breath and center yourself. Leave your W alone and think long and hard about what you want. Maybe in the end you decide you do want to pursue D but your mind needs to be in the right place to make that decision and I don't think it is right now.
