Everything Hurt213 said is true. Very wise words.
And in most cases I might add that they have done horrible things. And they know it.

In my wife's case she is the typical librarian nerdy type. Kind of like Talia Shire (Rocky's sister) - we are both Greek btw. You would not in a million years picture this person with an affair. She is a household wife, very inexperienced.
I didnt even want to bother looking for proof.
For laughs one day I looked around the house. The truth was out there.

B.D in December 2018
Physical Affairs discovered in April 2019
Divorced May 2019
H (me) 49
W (her) 29