For reasons that are unclear to me, some women - certainly not all - are attracted to me. The two serious relationships I had before I was married, my ex, and two of the ladies who I have dated since divorce including the one I am dating now all made great efforts to attract me to them.
The last time I was in a bar fight has to be over 30 years ago - and while there was a girl at the root cause of it, it was one who was being disrespected, not one I wanted to impress.
Now, I'm a very doting guy. Opening doors, sending flowers, making sure that any woman in my life knows that she is cared about and it seems to work and I enjoy doing it. Other than with "CL" it has always served to bring me closer to the woman who I was attracted to and visa versa. As another example, there's Ginger1's relationship with M. He also seems to be a kind and caring man and probably always has been and that works for them too.
On the other hand Gordie's W was upset at him because he didn't "fight for her". Some women perhaps get off on that and get validation that they are valuable. I honestly don't know much about J9's back story as it seemed to come in and end pretty darned quick compared to many. I did hear earlier this week that B's daughter creeped my ex's Facebook feed and even though I fought hard for my marriage, I never entered in to a competition against OM but there I am, prominently featured on her social media still with little or no visibility of the guy she left me for.
Is that a function of being older? I don't think so. Thinking hard about it, perhaps it's more about social status within a group than the dynamics between two people. I'm certainly not smart enough to know though.
Just my 2 cents - sorry for the partial thread-jack J9.
On BD H52, W50 T27, M26 S21, D23 BD-9-Mar-16 D-15-Jan-18 Final-19-Apr-18 I am a storyteller. The story may do you no good. But a story is never for the listener. It is always for the one who tells
