There is no hurry to D if she isn't pushing for it. I know you feel like you have to take action, and like this is the only action open to you. I absolutely get that (I think that's a human thing not a gender thing!) But sometimes NOT taking action can be braver than just waiting and sitting with that discomfort and those feelings of powerlessness and fear. The gender thing: don't file because you think you'll look weak or less of a man if you don't. Everyone is entitled to take their time and also to change their minds, men included. You shouldn't flip flop this way and that, that *will* look weak. But yes, give it your best shot. Sit on those impulses to do something and take action and reject her. If you do D, do it from a place of strength not impulsivity.
