Persistent Endurance (Part 2)

[curtis7]

Haven’t posted in a few days and am settling in to the separation and the parenting arrangement. Kids stayed at W’s house Friday and Saturday night. They were back with me Sunday and Monday. Now, they will be with her the next 3 nights. I have been able to see my kids everyday when W comes over to take care of her horse.

Saturday was 5 months post-BD. My S8 had a baseball game that morning. W brought the kids over before the game to get his gear. She just sat in her car in the driveway for 30 minutes texting away and didn’t come in the house. She continued to isolate herself at the game, sitting alone and glued to her phone.

After the game I watched the movie Fireproof and was amazed how it paralleled several experiences in my sitch. It had me teary eyed a few times as I could feel the pain of what he was going through. If only it was that easy to reconcile and we all could have a Hollywood ending. I do plan to check out the book referenced in the movie, but I gather the actions in the book are not easy to implement when separated.

On Saturday night, I went to a friend’s 40th birthday party. I had a blast with a fun group of people that care about me and even sang some karaoke (first time). My 40th is coming up at the end of May. A group of women (mom’s from S8’s baseball team that I coach) at the party offered to plan a get together for me to celebrate. I think I’ll take them up on the offer. Should I have them invite WW?

On Sunday morning, W brought kids over and she took her horse out for a ride. She told me how great her horse was coming along with her training when she returned. She also told me about how the landscaping at her new place was such a mess and that she had uprooted about 100 pineapples. All small talk, have avoided relationship talk altogether for well over a month now. I’m not interested in R while OM are in the picture.

I had two awesome days with my kids. We played some board games, went to volleyball, cleaned the house, and read books. Baseball practice was rained out yesterday and when I brought the kids home W was waiting in the garage while texting and hadn’t gone in the house. I guess she is trying to respect that it is my house now and she doesn’t want to intrude. She fed her horse, came back in the house and sat with D4 for 5 minutes. She asked if I needed any help getting dinner ready. I replied, no thanks I got it. She seemed annoyed, then said goodbye to the kids and left. D4 asked her why she had to go. My S8 told me he doesn’t really like it at her place and wishes he could stay at our house all the time and for mom to come home. I told him I want the same thing and hopefully someday so does mom. I wonder if she feels any remorse for tearing the family apart.