So maybe just continue to work on releasing thoughts about Him and his activities

I think for me is mostly practice to release thoughts or replace them

I think because the thoughts are so charged with emotion and loss it is harder to release
so I would embrace, surrender, grieve and accept the thoughts are sometimes there
it still hurts, and when I you are fully healed thoughts about H will disappear

I rarely think of my XH anymore and if I do it has no emotion attached
I wish him well..Im happy in my life and he would have held my growth back-and he chose destruction over growth for himself
definitely not the kind of man I want
so I am grateful that he left-


married 14 years
H 42
bomb 2/07 IDLYA
D final 3 /09
M ow D ow