So maybe just continue to work on releasing thoughts about Him and his activities
I think for me is mostly practice to release thoughts or replace them
I think because the thoughts are so charged with emotion and loss it is harder to release so I would embrace, surrender, grieve and accept the thoughts are sometimes there it still hurts, and when I you are fully healed thoughts about H will disappear
I rarely think of my XH anymore and if I do it has no emotion attached I wish him well..Im happy in my life and he would have held my growth back-and he chose destruction over growth for himself definitely not the kind of man I want so I am grateful that he left-
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