thinking about the future it hard, isn't it? Is there anything about your present you would change if you knew for sure that your marriage was at an end? I don't mean the big stuff, like moving house, but just the way you spend your time and how you live day to day? I've been asking myself that question a lot. I think it's right that you can't live your life in this kind of pause forever - and if in June your H is no further forward in explaining what he wants than he was when he left, then perhaps it is time for you to go dark and maybe consider dating or something? I know I won't be as supportive and welcoming if May passes and my H is still telling me he doesn't have the emotional capacity to tell me what he wants. I will be making that decision for myself.
Do you think your H might have, or might have developed, an alcohol problem? Not all alcoholics are drinking vodka in the morning, or showing signs of physical dependency. If he drinks instead of reflecting on or dealing with uncomfortable feelings or situations, then it will be a very very very long time before anything changes, and when they do change, it will probably be for the worse. Is that something that worries you?
