Whirlwind of Hurt 7

[Twofeet]

I was very loud and hard for them to hear XW. She said she was at a coffee shop, but between the loudness and her talking like she was intoxicated I think she was at the bar. It started to alarm the kids and I think she noticed so she said she had to go.

Change I was very loud to It was very loud where XW was at and hard for the kids to hear XW.


Anyway the kids are adjusting and for the most part doing well. Their teachers have told me that they are doing well and that the D doesn't appear to be affecting their education or social interactions at school. I have them in counseling and I take them about 2 times a month. D8 seems to be handling things well although she is very busy with school and activities so if homework gets left at moms house XW usually throws it away. Also if D8 leaves things she needs for her activities, school, or for life in general XW will not bring it to D8 at school, my house, or a halfway point. This has been tough on D8, but D8 and I have been tying colored ribbon on her backpack as a reminder of certain things she needs to bring between houses and school.

D5 has been getting more affectionate with me and while she has always been mommy's girl she has been stating her disinterest to go to mom's house and wanting to stay with me an extra day. Could just be a phase since all kids go back and forth between which parent is their favorite. However, all 3 kids have been doing that, but this is probably just from me being more active with them and staying busy with them. I try to keep them busy so that tablet and TV time is minimal. I still have to keep D5 in a pullup at night as she still has trouble. Hopefully she will go back to not needing this. The one thing we have been working in IC with D5 is how she can be so physical when she doesn't get what she wants. Basically when she can't communicate her needs to her brother and sister she punches them.

S3 has been handling things the best he can from his 3 year old mind. He doesn't understand "why mommy wont come live with daddy, so we can be a whole family." I just tell him that I understand how he feels and he should ask his mommy why. I have been working really hard with him along with his daycare/preschool teacher at getting him re-potty trained. As of about 2.5 weeks ago something clicked and he is potty trained again (during the day).

A little boy is naturally drawn to other boys to play games that boys just seem to instinctively want to do. He gets bored and/or too aggressive with his sisters which in turn can cause D5 to get punchy, heck even D8 has had to smack him a few times. I try to spend time with him playing, wrestling, and doing things boys his age like to do. Last month I reconnected with a childhood friend and her H who have a boy S3 age and a boy who is D8 age. I look forward to getting him around more boys instead of hanging out with my daughters all the time.

The kids are working through it all and I hope that as I lead by example they will turn out alright. XW tends to spoil them or just throw electronics up in front of them so she doesn't have to deal with them. This is something I have to be aware of and manage, however this hasn't really changed since we were in a MR. I am leading the family even more now that we are D, and XW has taken a back seat and follows my lead.