Please do not communicate with her. It is tempting. She will endure much more than you can handle, because she's out to lunch. I, and others here, have all been there. She has inability to rationalize things and wants nothing to do with anyone by herself. I would especially refrain from doing any of this via text message. It will only come back to haunt you. Some things are easy to take out of context and could be posed as threats. Continue to gather any documents you can regarding assets, finances, etc, be there for the kids...you're in for a long, bumpy ride.
