I must say though that worrying about the kids and the puppy not giving him peace is also a bit smothering. He chose to come, he knows the kids are there and the puppy and yet he still chose to come.
Try to relax and don't try to control the environment. If he wanted peace and quiet then he's a grown man, he can go and find it away from your vibrant household.
If you wind yourself up so tightly in trying to control every situation then every little thing that happens in normal family life has a high probability of tipping you over the edge.
Live your life. Be Alison. Be confident, not this person who walks on eggshells worrying about his every furrowed brow.
