roist: I thank you so much for all of your advice and words of encouragement. I apologize for not responding right away. About a week ago, I was approved on an apt about 4 miles from my W's residence; been busy with the move this past weekend. The boys and I are pretty happy now that we have another happy place.
Here's an update re the D, as I went over the summons and requests, etc., I see that she's seeking full/physical custody of the kids and she listed time spent with the boys were 75% with her 25% with me (in which I don't agree). I reminded her (via text) that this is between me and her; how she's unhappy, not in-love with me and how she wants to end it with me. Told her that I respected her decision for her to be happy and that the issue is not between me and the boys. I suggested that on the summons, she should've put joint custody 50/50 instead. She said she put full custody 75/25 for now. I replied by saying, "for what reason though?" Hence in my response to the summons, I will request joint custody 50/50. A mediation is set in 1.5 months.
That being said, I informed her that I was approved on an apt and that we should have joint custody of the boys and 50/50 on everything. I also told her that no spousal support and no child support needed since we both can provide for the boys on our own. She replied by saying, "Fyi, you don't have to respond. That's why we have a mediator meeting. We can try to talk about it there". My response was, "It's best to have an agreement outside court. Then we can provide the court with our proposed agreement." I also added, "It was your decision to end it with me. We deserve equal rights/time with our boys for their best interest. Let's not make a big fuss out of it. It's all about them now".
I also sent her another text giving her the address of the apt and welcoming her to come at my new place with no response.
