wow.. thanks for the inputs ya'll. So the friend of a friend is super fresh out of that relationship. So that was one issue. But Donny Boy got my thinking a bit about why I had that initial reaction. And it's really not fair or even rationale for me to think that way. I was comparing this gal to what my ex would say and I am trying hard to avoid some one like her again. She would say the same thing... yea long term relationship, I wasn't happy for a while so it ended bla bla bla. I mean everyone has there own stories and I should be willing to hear them out. So then I thought I would give it a go with this girl. But I guess my friend hung out with her this weekend and now isn't sure she is a fit haha! Might have been my initial reaction. Must stop that!
The OLD convo is interesting. I used bumble a bit almost a year ago. I wasn't ready to date but just tried it out. I got a lot of hits. Now it has filters etc and nada. The profile space is limited. Anyway, I deleted the app. Maybe something like match will be better or I'll try again after I move. I didn't have any filter set on there. My main hard no is on smoking, that's a non-negotiable regardless of anything else. I also need someone who is active otherwise we just wouldn't be compatible.
The whole filter thing in OLD is interesting and totally different than real life. We don't get to filter who we meet in real life. I mean I get it, it's not bad. They are asking you to pick what you like, so you pick that without giving it a second thought. If everything is exactly equal, they would prefer someone 5'10 vs 5'6... it's cool. Just makes thing harder for me haha! Maybe I'll give match a go in a little bit again but really focus on those positive traits in the profile like was mentioned. hmph!
