I have limited experience with OLD and dating in general.
OLD is certainly different then how we used to connect with someone cause it’s not about getting to know someone or seeing someone every day and developing an attraction or crush. There is an initial selection criteria which can certainly be limiting. There’s almost an unspoken caste system to it. Like, I know that at 40 I will be able to go for a successful good looking man over 50 or a successful guy with low to average looks my age or a guy that has bad luck/undesirable/inexperienced with women or is just looking for someone to sleep with at a younger age. I don’t take it personally. I know it’s the way of the world.
You can sometimes get a sense for their personality in what or how they write, but the majority of people write very generic descriptions - which says a lot in its own way. It’s a numbers game and you can’t take it seriously I think.
I don’t really know how else to meet someone though with a young child and limited time. It would be more of a waste of my limited time going to a bar at the off chance I’m gonna meet someone that is my age and looking for a relationship. So I kind of view OLD as a necessary evil.
If you have undesirable traits, like height I think you have to over compensate with a great profile that sets you apart and reveal all the very desirable traits - like your success or a great personality in order to get attention. And you could make a bigger effort when responding to a girl that you like. Make sure she knows you read her stuff. Put the effort that other guys aren’t putting in and it will increase your chance.
Are you ok dating a taller girl? Some don’t mind or view it as a big deal. Also, do you yourself have very strict criteria on your profile? Like there’s nothing more annoying then the person that complains about someone else’s grammar and spelling yet makes spelling mistakes throughout their profile. I hate seeing hypocrisy on the OLD profiles. It’s a red flag.
