Filing is never easy for the LBS-we never wanted the D in the first place
SO it is advised for the LBS to wait a bit To work on self ect...create a new life, watch the MLCer--see what direction he goes ect.. IT gives us time to heal and healing takes time
Sometimes it may go against our belief systems and there are different lines of thought on this Some might say tough love- like file and move on
neither way may prove to bring the desired result-- the MLCer may continue on his journey no matter what
I think DB is a way for us to heal first then choose direction of standing or D
Its a personal choice each may choose different ways to deal with same issue-
I find that learning to trust my gut is helpful
and trusting god that all things will work out as planned
This limbo that you speak of is only temporary and the time can used for your greatest growth- it is not lost time-
married 14 years H 42 bomb 2/07 IDLYA D final 3 /09 M ow D ow