If I can offer what I found out recently from my WAW as a reason of the BD, something that I dont see mentioned anywhere in Michele's book DR (possibly in her other books) is what they tought of the sex.

Mine flat out told me that it wasnt that good. Ouch. I know.
OK we have a son and she had orgasms even if not always.
But the frequency of sex and lack of foreplay or seduction kills it.

I know I had no response to that. I told her she was right. I verified that we had good times at some point but there were long rough patches where we couldnt meet in climax.

I owned it. I was unemployed for a long time with my sex drive down.

How was your sex life with her?


B.D in December 2018
Physical Affairs discovered in April 2019
Divorced May 2019
H (me) 49
W (her) 29