WAS or WHAT 11

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Hi Hawho,

Great to hear from you. Although I miss walking the path with you, I am glad you are out of the turmoil.

As for me, I am less okay than I thought. Having a hard time a the moment. Things are very strained at the moment and I don't even want to talk to her. Our boys are in preteen years and we are dealing with the normal stuff that goes with that.

I don't have the time to outline all the details, but in essence I have the impression my W often criticises me though sometimes very subtle. yes I know it is normal to be blamed/prejected upon, but over time that becomes less supportable.

Last night we had a bit of a battle with our eldest son, which in itself is hard to support. Then she criticises my suggested course of action. I tried to explain but she PROJECTED it back to me. I told her calmly that my idea was not so bad and almost every time we have such issues she finds a way to be critical of me. She said she wasn't critical but just discussing to find a solution. I replied that it didn't feel like a discussion but an attack. She said she was just annoyed (at situation with son).

Anyway I am getting tired of such interactions. Very tired. Ignoring them doesn't work. Neither does arguing. Nor empathy. Nor talking. Today I feel like the WAS. I just want this to end. The problem is that I don't see a better solution YET.

I come here when I feel down, rant a little and then type something to convince myself that it isn't all that bad. Always seeking that positive silver lining. Usually it helps

My W is also unhappier at the moment. Her princess comments are becoming insistent abut her not being treated like one. She seems genuinely surprised and taken back by this. Maybe in time she will stop blaming me and see if she could be contributing!!

My W often moans about interactions with some people. After which she sometimes asks if it's her or the other! Sometimes it is blatently her, but others it could be the other person.

I am nearing the end of my self-help rant!! I hope it helps because at the moment it feels like a pressure cooker.

Thanks for reading